Cyber Sex - Root explores the dark side
I have recently been looking into Cyber Sex. We want to know what folk do and why.
There is no doubt that the internet has revolutionised communication. We are all in that. Every single subject under the sun can now be discussed openly and freely. Billions of folk have taken to blogging and related activities with great enthusiasm. And what do they all do? They talk. They chat. They communicate.
Given what we know about human nature it is scarcely surpising that the internet is now being widely used in some of mankinds favourite activities including gambling and sex.
In one of the UKs leading psychology journals Joan Ullmam has written a very disturbing and thought provoking account of the US Cyber Sex case of Oliver Jonavovic. After an online encounter that morphed into a meeting that obviously went wrong somewhere the guy is now serving a fifteen year prison term. Nevertheless if you read the article a completely different picture emerges. It is interesting stuff.
WOW! Was I ever shocked when I read the article. Speaking of “the dark side” I can’t think of anything darker than this woman.
Comment by Brightfeather Aug 28, 09:09 PM #
Well it is neat that folk actually read my stuff and follow it up. :) But yes. This is a very disturbing story.
Comment by Root Aug 29, 04:34 AM #
The law can never be a perfect fit for all cases. And while I strongly uphold the rape shield law, I can see that in this case it was misapplied. The the effect was to shield perjury because in essence it sanctioned ZZ5’s denials about her email S&M discussions with Jovanovic. What’s unsettling is that the law was upheld but justice was not done.
Comment by brightfeather Aug 29, 04:43 PM #
If I go on any clandestine encounters I am going to take a stenographer, a photographer, and my attorney. :)
Comment by Root Aug 29, 05:27 PM #
a photographer? hawt!
Comment by adam Sep 1, 03:03 PM #
Oh there’s this gal on Yahoo! 360 who is reputedly “dating” some Pakistani who is at least 30 years her junior. (Can you say “green card”?) I’d post a link to the site, but really, it’s a train wreck.
Comment by Just Joni Sep 23, 10:33 PM #
I guess the great advantage of cybersex is that age doesn’t matter:)
Adds a whole new dimension to the silver surfer thing. :)
Comment by Root Sep 24, 08:28 AM #
So what’s the big surprise in finding older people can turn on computers – and their partners? It’s attitude, not age, is what counts. And the cyberworld allows us to meet people and create close and meaningful online relationships that are free of the stigmas attached to age, attractiveness and disabilities.
We live in a world dominated by “youth”. If we haven’t embraced the myth that only the young have a sex life – and then only if they look like Justin Timberlake or Kate Moss then we can see the trends.
While it’s true that there are more 18 to 24-year-olds using the net but its popularity among older people is growing fast. And they certainly don’t deserve to be patronized with excruciating names such as “silver surfers “, which is how much of the media depicts everyone over the age of 30.
Research has determined that the people who spend most time online (42 hours a month) aren’t teenagers but the over-65s. Far from being technologically illiterate and repeatedly asking their grandchildren to explain the meaning of phrases such as “the internet”, people in this age group are perfectly capable of understanding the function of a modem and a wireless router.
Sensuality and sexuality are aspects of self-expression. And it’s interesting to note that the Pew Institute studies demonstrate that the majority of bloggers today are women in their 40’s blogging for reasons of self-expression.
As Root has said:
“There is no doubt that the internet has revolutionized communication. We are all in that. Every single subject under the sun can now be discussed openly and freely. Billions of folk have taken to blogging and related activities with great enthusiasm. And what do they all do? They talk. They chat. They communicate.”
In other words, in cyberspace people do exactly what they do in everyday life – they form relationships. :)
Comment by brightfeather Sep 24, 04:12 PM #